How to Basically Deal with the Death of a Loved One
Most of the people who have just lost their loved one or someone who is very important in their lives are commonly experiencing the five stages of loss or mourning and grief, with the first stage as denial and isolation, then anger, bargaining, depression, and the fifth and last stage is acceptance. The five basic stages of mourning or loss and grief does not happen to the people in an orderly manner, and such also occurs to the people who have learned about their terminal illness. The people often isolate themselves from other people in order for them to feel numb from the hurtful truth, and being in the state of denial is actually considered as a human being’s common defense mechanism. Anger is also one of the stages for the people would often blame and feel resentment towards the loved ones who have left them for causing them pain and for leaving them; while bargaining, on the other hand, is when the people would often produce if only statements and such is a weaker line of defense that can protect them from the painful and heartbreaking reality. A reaction that is subtle and private, and a reaction to any practical implications that may be related to their loss and grief, are actually the two basic types of depression stage. The acceptance stage, being the final stage, typically happens when the people have finally cope up with the reality that their loved ones have already passed away and left them.
The people who have lost a loved one should understand that their loved one is already in a better place and is already out of pain, and the best way to cope up with this reality is to keep in mind that the memories that you and your loved one have shared when he or she is still alive is forever. The basic guide on how to help the people in dealing the death of their loved ones in the right and proper way or method are to plan a proper celebration of the loved ones’ life when he or she is still alive, for doing such activities can help you make yourself busy; to always remember that there is no rulebook on how a person or individual should deal with their loved ones’ death; and to stop and prevent yourself from judging one’s self, especially when you get to accept this reality immediately for each of us may respond differently. Keeping or making yourself busy is considered as a common method of the people to accept the fact that their loved one is already gone, and that is by deciding what to do when planning the memorial service.